Dear Random Girl,

I just want to start by saying, by process of elimination, I have narrowed it down to maybe four girls from high school who probably want to rub Icy-Hot in the crotch of all of my panties.

I am looking at you, She-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named.

I don’t know what I did to you. I really don’t. Mainly because I have zero childhood memories. I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until I was an adult, and lack of memory is the result. The only memories I have are, like, super fucked ones.

Like the time I reverse catfished a guy. I clearly remember James.

The summer I was thirteen… I met James. He lived in the farmhouse across from my grandma’s farmhouse, on the other side of Hog Creek (that’s the actual name of the creek). I was infatuated with him. Grandma told me not to get too attached because his parents were  ”renters”, and his time near Hog Creek would be limited. The week I spent with James was blissful. BLISSFUL. He was two years older, hot, smiled a lot at me, and we even grazed legs once when we were swimming in Grandma’s pond. After my week-long visit at Grandma’s house had ended, James and I became pen-pals. I really wanted him to like me, so I made up a whole bunch of lies about myself with each new letter. The biggest lie was that I had just landed a modeling gig with Seventeen magazine. James (being the nice guy he was) asked me to send him some pictures. I (now stuck in my compulsive lie that kept growing) cut out random pictures of blonde haired girls, and sent them to James.

James never sent me another letter.

See? That’s the sort of things I remember. The James-Catfish-Reversing story fought his way through my unorganized and overactive brain. It stuck.

i know right

What I don’t remember are the things that prompt you, She-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named, to read into things I post online and gossip about my marriage with my husband’s best friend (who also went to Swanton High School – so that’s how I know this clearly a girl from Swanton High School – but don’t worry – whoever you are – he isn’t giving you up – but he did alert us to the situation).

Lots of people hate me, but at least they know me, or have formed their hate over some opinion I had about something on this blog. But since you don’t really know me, you just think you know me because we went to Swanton High School together fifteen bazillion years ago, I am going to give you an actual list of real reasons to hate me.

now i am such a good friend


1. I’m always right.

2. I put deodorant on the same armpit twice the other day, so my one armpit was stinky, and I made my coworker smell it and then laughed about it. Who does that?

3. My boss says I am “unmanageable”. My husband may or may not agree with my boss.

4. I am a talker-overer and an interrupter. So sometimes it takes eight to twelve minutes to tell me your three minute story.

5. I slay people with my silver tongue.

6. I’m not judgey, unless we’re talking about yucky teeth.

7. I sort of like to call people out when they are shitty to me. And by sort of, I mean, I am passionate about confrontation (reference: this entire blog post).

8. I have the mouth of a drunken-one-eyed-peg-legged pirate.

9.  I sometimes mistake myself for the cross bearer of all women, everywhere, all the time. My extreme feminism wears out the men in my life.

10. I don’t share things I drink with other people, not even my children. I am weird about mouth germs. Which is an odd OCD thing for me suffer from because… college.

Despite all of these shitty qualities about myself, there is ONE awesome quality I have developed over the years…

I am a girl’s girl. 

mean-girls-19If you would stop hating me, you would probably figure out that I am, like, every girl’s most fun friend. I’ve got your back… as long as you have mine.

So, whoever you are, I am giving you permission to stop hating me. I cannot even remember our high school interactions, so it’s okay for you to forget them as well.

I left high school like fifteen bazillion years ago, and your mental health needs you to leave high school, too. Hating me is a waste of your time. But if you must continue this way, please refer to the list above, because I just gave 10 up-to-date reasons to hate me.

I’m sorry?



PS – When I typed it all out for you, it all feels a little small town and Mean Girls and silly. I know, right? That’s sort of my point. Grow up.


Dear Meredith,

Can you tell us how you do your make-up? Or at least what’s in your makeup bag?


Old and Frumpy Feeling


Dear Old and Frumpy Feeling,

Stop it. You stop it now.

I am 34-years-old, I have dark circles under my eyes, I have zits and blackheads, I pick my zits and blackheads, my skin is dry in weird spots, and I sleep in my makeup (I am just that lazy with my nightly routine – I also do not brush my teeth before bed).

But can you tell? Nope.

I may not know how to be nice to mean girls, how to forgive and forget, how to cook anything without a noodle, how to do math, how not to be overbearing, or how to insert a tampon… but I DO know how to apply makeup like a mother fucker.


meredith soleau

I’m a self-confessed product whore (lucky for you, unlucky for my checking account). I’ve put everything on my face (that’s what she said). I know exactly what you need to spend money on at a department store, and I know what you can get by with from the pharmacy.

Go buy these things (in your skin tone) and come back Monday for my “How I Apply Makeup The Wrong Way But It Still Looks Stellar” tutorial.

make up

Expensive Department Store Things:

Make Up Remover (for runny mascara after your shower): Estee Lauder Take It Away, $20

Face Lotion (it’s sinfully good): Dior Hydra Life Creme Sorbet, $50

Foundation: Dior Forever (I wear shade #32), $49

Concealer: Clinique Line Smoothing Concealer (I wear light), $17

Powder: Clinique Stay-Matte Pressed Powder (I wear Buff), $23

Bronzer: Estee Lauder Bronze Goddess (I wear 03 Medium Deep), $36

Eye Shadow: Clinique All About Shadow Quad in Pink Chocolate, $28

Brow Liner/Highlighter Thingy: Clinique Instant Lift for Brows (I wear Soft Blonde), $16.50

Mascara: Clinique High Impact Volume Mascara in Black, $16

Cheap Walmart Things:

Blush Stick: Maybelline Master Glaze in Make a Mauve, $7

Eyeliner: Almay Amazing Liquid I-Liner in Black, $6

Lipstick: Rimmel Lasting Finish Lipstick in Amethyst Shimmer, $5

Make Up Brushes: EcoTools 5 Piece Bamboo Brush Set, $10

There you have it!

I’ll see you Monday with a video makeup tutorial! And I have purple hair! I can’t wait to show you! #SoMuchFun




Sometimes you just yell things at the wrong times because it’s loud and stuff.

March 20, 2014

LARS: Mom, I forgot to tell you. I have to be at the school at 7 o’clock. It’s our Spring concert tonight. ME: Lars! It’s six-thirty! I just walked through the door, your sister is sleeping, and your brother is going crazy! This is how life goes at the Soleau house. We wing it. I [...]

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Chuck Norris doesn’t read books. He stares them down for the information he wants.

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Shaun Soleau is an excellent Mathematician. I can totally spell and define the word “mathematician”. Lars is now in the Fifth Grade. His Math class is getting really difficult. For me. Mom, we just touched on square roots today. Can you explain to me again how to find the square root of sixty-four? I forget what [...]

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A Sobering Look at the Art Of “Mommy Wars”

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Mommy Wars: ˈmämē/ wôrs plural proper noun   1. one’s mother (chiefly as a child’s term) is in a state of conflict with another one’s mother about a certain ways of mothering things (specifically their children). In her mind, she’s clearly better than another one’s mother. These conflicts are typically released via Facebook, Twitter, blogs, Babble, and/or [...]

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The Seven Year Itch VD Edition: How to save your marriage in five easy-peasy steps!

February 14, 2014

See what I just did there in the title? With the whole “VD” and “Itch” thing? You don’t know this, but about five months ago, Shaun and I were holed up in a Chicago hotel, trying to decide if we wanted to stay married. I’ll give you a minute to pick yourself up off the [...]

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Dear Meredith: How do I get the best deal at the car dealership?

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Dear Meredith, When purchasing a new vehicle, how do you get the sales people to take you seriously? How do you best negotiate to get what you want and not end up thinking you’ve won, when you really didn’t get all you could have?  We’re going car shopping this coming weekend, and while I know [...]

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February 8, 2014

This morning, I stopped at Walmart for some random office supplies. For some reason, I asked for cash back when I checked out. I never carry cash. In the parking lot, a lady stopped me to ask if I had any money. Apparently her ex-husband didn’t show up to get the kids. He had promised her [...]

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Interview With A Tornado Tracker

February 4, 2014

Brandon Copic had no idea what he was getting into when he sat down in the driver’s seat for his test drive. He wasn’t aware of my internet fame, although I was well aware of his. My brain scrambled, and instead of going over the features and benefits of the vehicle on the test drive…I [...]

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Defamation Per Se

January 20, 2014

Ohio recognizes that certain statements constitute defamation per se. These statements are so egregious that they will always be considered defamatory and are assumed to harm the plaintiff’s reputation, without further need to prove that harm. Ohio has a broad definition of defamation per se. In contrast to most states, which limit defamation per se to three or [...]

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