The Thirteen Day Bender

by Meredith on September 30, 2013

Being unemployed blows.

And while I was one of the lucky ones, who received many job offers, and they all came very quickly and easily, I still spent about two weeks not going to work everyday. It sucks being out of routine. It’s scary. And it’s soul shaking.

I cannot believe I did this to people. So many people. I bet I’ve told close to a thousand people they no longer have a job. That is so crappy of me! I’m never doing that again. I will not fire people for money ever again. And if I did that to you, I am very sorry.

Anyway, I’ve spent the past two weeks in a wine and vodka fueled haze. It started out fun. I was going to interviews in the morning and day drinking in the afternoon with my equally unemployed pal (who quit at the same time as me, over the same issue as me). He was teaching me how to sell cars over Absolut and Sailor Jerry’s. I was mock interviewing him, and telling him how to answer all the hardest questions he would be asked, while reassuring him that he was great and would find an even better job.

But then this weird thing happened. My drinking buddy went back to the place we had just quit. I found out from other people, not from him, and I was just with him earlier the same day. I was shocked because I didn’t see that coming. More shocked now, since he’s since stopped speaking to me all together (I guess I no longer serve a purpose for him or his career – nice friend, right?).

My brain sorta exploded at that point. We were such good friends. Work BFFs. We ate lunch together and took coffee breaks together and grabbed beers together after work ALL THE TIME. I helped him in his career. He helped me with mine. We got promotions around the same time. We’re about the same age. But it was all a sham. A sham that Shaun Soleau called two years before, “You know he’s just using you, right? He’s pulling you closer and closer. I don’t mind him being your work BFF, but be careful with your heart. You’re in HR, and he wants to get to the top of that ladder.”

So what began as, OMG! THIS IS LIKE SPRING BREAK! WHICH JOB SHOULD I PICK?! YAY! MORE SHOTS! 

Went to, Meredith, you have to let this go. Now get out of bed, and take a shower. You smell.

Clearly I wasn’t my fun self anymore, and all my closest friends saw it. They were concerned and stopping by “just to see how things were going”. My mom, Kendra, April, Lindsey, Andy, Candie, Jodi, Eric, Brittany, Audrey, Brooke, Becky, and of course Shaun, pulled me out of a messy-unemployment-funk. They screwed my head back on straight. Thanks to them, my armpits aren’t smelly, my legs are shaved again, and I’ve stopped doubting my employment decisions.

I guess the point of this is, unemployment sucks (even if you quit your job). Leaving a company feels a lot like a breakup. Which, I did not expect. I didn’t think it would be that big of a deal. Except, it was a totally big deal. I didn’t realize how much I had identified myself as being an HR lady at this car dealership.

If you have a friend who recently lost a job, your friend is going through something super traumatic. You go find your friend, you drag her out of bed, and take her shopping (I’ve spent far too much money on new underwear, riding boots, ugly sweaters, and gummy bears these past two weeks… but it totally helped). If they want to cope with margaritas? Fine, hold her hair as she pukes. If she texts you crazy thoughts all day long, listen to them, and reply back to her that she’s being insane. Friends need to hear when they’ve lost their minds.

And sometimes? You just need to show up and do toe touches in her kitchen until she decides to laugh again.

friendship

But that’s it. I refuse to be pathetic for another second over this whole quitting-my-job-crap. It’s time to turn the page and reinvent myself.

Tomorrow I start my new job. I was going to go sell used cars, but I had a last minute offer come in on Friday, which was better! Yay for me!

I’m still going to be selling cars (because I’ve always wanted to do this), only now I’m going to Thayer Chevrolet in Bowling Green to sell Chevy’s!

2014 Chevrolet Camaro Z28

Hello, sexy!

I get to take all my internet and social media prowess, and apply it to sales. HELL. YES. And I don’t have to fire people for money anymore. EVEN. BETTER.

But I need all of you to help me!

Please “like” Thayer Chevy’s Facebook page. [CLICK HERE

Even if you live far away, please “like” it. The page will be my voice, so it’ll be entertaining (now that I’m done feeling sorry for myself). But most importantly, with the way Facebook science works, I can boost things to your Facebook friends from that page. I’ll sell a car to any of your friends, even if they live out of state. And while I’m in your state, delivering this car, I’ll take you to dinner and allow you to stare at my glorious hair.

Finally, I need some leads. This is where being famous on the internet (for something other than porn) comes into play. The Thayer Family Dealerships pretty much sell everything. So if you know anyone looking for a Chevy, Ford, Nissan, Scion, Toyota, Honda, or pre-owned car, please send them my way.

My new email address is meredith@thayerchevrolet.com. My cell phone number is (419) 266-0966. Contact me with some leads!

So that’s about it! The thirteen day bender is over! I start my new job tomorrow! And I couldn’t be happier!

Have you ever been unemployed? How did you handle it? If you’re unemployed now, please comment in the comment section! A lot of HR folks read this blog.

Let’s get you a job, sexy. It’s time you began shaving your legs again. Let’s get you back in the saddle.

{ 22 comments… read them below or add one }

Tina

I am unemployed. And reading this in bed. I never got over my 2011 work break up, but I filled the void with the HR gig I left in July. I hate HR. I don’t want to do it ever again. I don’t mind safety. That part rocked but I have nightmares over HR crap!

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Rachel

One day, when my husband’s “I need to buy a truck” comes to a head, I’m going to send him your way. Even though we’re 2 hours away.

Also, I’m officially on the hunt for a job in the NE Columbus, Ohio area. This unemployment was voluntary after the birth of my first daughter 3 years ago. I feel like I’ve reached the end of my tolerance level for being a SAHM. I’d like to be creative and do something crazy like talk to other adults.

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Meredith

I know an HR Pro in Columbus! Email me your resume and I’ll send it along to her!

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e3writing

I’m not unemployed, but I just love reading your writing – you are so damn smart and I love reading about tough, smart women succeeding in the workforce.

You know, in addition to staring at your hair ;)

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Meredith

*blushing*

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erica

Good luck Meredith!

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Kim

I just stumbled upon your blog. I am also in HR and WOW this hits home! I haven’t experience the burn out… yet… but can totally relate to the insanity. Best of luck on your new career!!

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Marcy

Best of Luck with the new job Meredith…I love reading your blogs…keep your chin up…you control your future girl!!

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steph gas

congrats on jumping to chevy! i’m pretty sure i would be a horrible HR person. i was an excellent sales person though. i used to work for a fortune 500 personal electronics manufacturer/retailer who must remain nameless due to confidentiality. i worked from home for them in a sales position and kicked SO MUCH sales ass.

i’m also sort of between jobs. luckily my dad needs help a day or two a week, and pays me pretty well to be a gal friday (or gal wednesday, since that’s the day of the week i usually work for him) so it’s helping out during the in between part. i left a below-entry-level job with low functioning mentally ill people because they kept peeing in my car. i turned down a full time entry-level reception/billing position with a drug and alcohol rehab center because i was interviewed for a part time drug and alcohol rehab COUNSELOR which is what i’m going to school for. totally terrifying and awesome. i know i’m a good interview and i’m confident i will get the job – but that doesn’t stop me from fretting :)

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Rachel

Congrats!! Super excited for you!!

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Laur

But seriously don’t fuck me.

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A.L.

Did you post this blog entry with me in mind? I feel like you are channeling me! I’ve been on a 6 month bender of sorts. Worked for Company for 14 years, telecommuted the last 3. Laid off in March, Loved telecommuting, can’t see myself in an office with a normal 9-5, and I came to thrive in a flexible schedule. And now… I’m paralyzed! I worked in HR too, but had weird roles, they don’t translate to the mainstream workforce. That said, I’m a high C (on DISC) and an ISTJ (on MB). In other news I’ve distanced myself from everyone but my husband because I can’t stand the constant, “have you found a job yet?” questions and feeling like I’m a loser for not having found something new after 6 months. I’m 38 with no kids and have worked for 22 years. Struggle everyday with wanting a break and being a contributing member of society and my relationship. I stay at home to save money and as a result, this introvert right here, is bordering on becoming a recluse. And although I wouldn’t entirely feel comfortable with it, among my friends, I don’t have any offering to come yank my ass out of bed, or tell me I’m insane.

I thank you M. for sharing your ‘bender’, I’m not sure it will get me out of this, I’m in pretty deep, but your post gave me a huge sigh of relief for today.

Signed,
Excellent detail oriented, HR project manager, administrator, telecommuter, EXTAORDINAIRE in Central Florida!

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A.L.

Oh,and much love and luck on the new job tomorrow. You are going to be a ROCKSTAR!! You at going to sell the sh*t out of cars for The Thayer Family dealership. Off to go like them now, as I know ppl in Bowling Green!

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Nuala Reilly

My hubs was headhunted for an absolutely FANTASTIC job which is why we moved this past summer from Ontario to New Brunswick, BUT I had a really great job which I loved working with people I loved that I had to leave. I’ve been unemployed now since July 5th with no new prospects in a province with one of the highest unemployment rates. It’s a scary time. I totally get what you were going through.
However, that being said I am really excited to hear that you are embarking on a new employment adventure. I have no doubt you will be awesome at it. Congratulations Meredith!!

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Jenn

I was laid off TWICE (from HR roles) in less than a year during the stellar year that was 2011. BRUTAL. The first time I was only unemployed for 2 hours before I had a job offer. The 2nd time was 3 months of job hunting and I ended up taking a job that I KNEW was going to be a terrible culture fit. Unfortunately I was right. Now I find myself wanting to put in enough time here to not do further damage to my resume. Almost 2 years… I am so ready for a new role with a company that doesn’t see HR as an adversary… that exists right? I have to try and believe. The last company I was laid off from was the only co. that DID partner with HR. Sigh.

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Christine M.

I am 22, and have been unemployed for a year and am about to literally lose my mind. My mother has a lot of health issues, and when I left my last job, it ended up being at the perfect time because she needed extra help with her activities of daily living. I have applied at hundreds of places, mostly jobs with health insurance, and haven’t found a job yet. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong; I have gaps in employment due to taking care of my mom and being in school full-time. (I’m not currently, long story) but I’m close to wanting to join you on a bender!!!

Congratulations, though on this exciting new venture! I’ve been reading your blog for a while and am super excited for you!!

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Lindsey

Meredith congrats on the new gig! As a HR gal myself I love your insight…and share your love of boots, beverages, and all things shiny. I look up to you as a big HR sister! All the best to you in your new role.

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Becky

I am unemployed again, and looking looking looking. I did HR in one of the largest dealerships in the St. Louis area, including payroll and benefits, along with the receptionist, the warranty administrator, and the biller, (not all at the same time) I have been the office manager at an auto repair shop, I have a lot of experience, and amazing skills but in the St. Louis market, I am one of 500 people applying for every job. And suggestions short of riding in on a unicorn with glitter and streamers?

Good luck at the new job. Unemployment sucks, but you’ll be great selling cars!!!

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chrisinphx

After working in HR as a generalist for 6 years I resigned to follow my partner who is a travel nurse. For 10 months I got to see a few great parts of California and then Tucson. He has now taken a staff position back in the Phoenix area (home for us) and I get to start the job hunt again. I had intended on staying with my company till it was time to retire. I loved the company and the culture and would go back to them in a heart beat. But, of course they are all staffed up :(
I guess on the plus side with the government being shut down at the moment I should be glad I’m not dealing with the E-Verify headache.

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Beth

Let’s talk about Mazda CX7′s sometime :)

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Liz

I’m unemployed right now. I really didn’t think it would be as hard as it is to find a job and the self esteem hit definitely took me by surprise. I’ll get there though, there is a job waiting for me I just haven’t found it. ;)

You’re going to rock this job! Congratulations!!

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Haeley Weiss

Once I find that new HR job in Toledo I will definitely be coming to see you for a new car! It’s way overdue. Good luck! I hope I have as much success as you!

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